How not to lose yourself in a relationship

how not to lose yourself in a relationship

Today, I’m going to be talking about how not to lose yourself in a relationship.  A lot of women tell me that they don’t know who they are anymore.  They’ve gotten into a relationship and they’ve lost all sense they have of themselves.  That is an issue for several women so today, that’s what I’m going to be dealing with in this post.

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When a woman has lost a sense of herself, it means that she didn’t really have a sense of herself before she entered the relationship.  So my big tip for you on this topic is that you should discover who you are before you get into a relationship.  How do you discover who you are?  You need to ask yourself what your beliefs and your values are.


What are your values?  What are the things that you consider important?  Is it family?  Is it honesty?  What is it?  Then ask yourself ‘what are your beliefs’? What are the rules you think should guide anybody’s life?  Do you think that there’s no excuse for a man to hit a woman?  Do you think that the man in a relationship should always pay the rent?  What are your beliefs?


Write down your values.  Write down your beliefs.  And then try to live your life by them.  This is what will guide you.  Of course, you still need to be flexible.  If you come across evidence or something else that tells you that perhaps you should change your belief or your values then perhaps you should.


Let me give you an example.  If you find that your man cannot pay the rent and you decide to pay it, won’t that make you question your belief on the fact that the man in a relationship should always pay the rent?  Think about it.  If you do come across evidence that makes you want to change your belief or any of your values, then change them.  You’re a human being.  You’re allowed to change your beliefs and values.  You’re allowed to be flexible.


So, write down your beliefs and values and try to live your life by them.  Follow them.  Let them lead you as a guide.  When you do that, you’ll find that you won’t change whenever you date somebody else.  You won’t lose yourself in a relationship.  You’ll always be who you are.


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