What it means when he says he wants to be friends

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As I find myself saying over and over again, men and women are so different, sometimes it seems as if we’re speaking different languages entirely.  So today, I’m going to be playing ‘interpreter’ again.  Today, I’m going to be talking about what it means when he says he wants to be friends.

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When a man says he wants to be friends, it can mean very different things.  It depends on who you are to him and what stage you guys are at in your relationship.  Let’s say you just met a guy and he is hitting on you but you have no interest in him.  After a while, he might say something like, “Look, I’m not trying to get with you.  I just want us to be friends.”  In this situation, that is a straight-up lie.  He doesn’t want to be friends; he wants to sleep with you.


Let’s go to situation number 2.  In this situation, you and a guy are having something.  You guys go out from time to time and you make out regularly.  But you haven’t actually defined your relationship.  You, at this stage, are now finally tired of whatever limbo you’re in and you ask him. “What exactly are we doing together?  Are we a couple or what?”


Instead of directly answering your question, he says something like, he just wants you guys to be friends.  You take him at his word but before you know it, he has called you up again and you’ve gone to see him, you guys have made out.  You get back home and you’re confused.  If he just wants to be friends, why is he making out with you?


He is doing it because he can.  He has found out that with you, he can get what he wants – attention and affection without the perceived stress of being a boyfriend.  In a way, in this situation, he is being honest.  He DOES want to be friends.  It’s just that he wants to be friends with benefits.


Situation 3 is when you guys used to date but then you broke up.  After the breakup, he says he wants to be friends.  The meaning of the ‘I just want to be friends’ statement here is complicated by the fact that it depends on whether you did the breaking up or he did the breaking up.  In this sort of situation, when a man says, ‘I just want us to be friends’, it could mean 2 or 3 different things but see, let’s keep things simple here.


If a guy you used to date and are no longer in a relationship with says he wants to be friends, he doesn’t just want to be friends.  He wants to sleep with you.  Saying that he wants to be friends is a way that will make it easier for him to get into your bed.  It’s like a little weak spot.  If he says you guys are friends, he knows that it’s easier for him to achieve his aim which in this case, is to sleep with you.


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