How to resist family pressure to marry

how to resist family pressure to marry

Today’s post is about how to resist family pressure to marry.  As a single woman in Nigeria, when you get to a particular age, you start feeling pressure to get married.  When that pressure comes from your family, it is particularly difficult to handle.  So, what should you do if you’re feeling pressure to get married and that pressure is coming from your family?

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The first thing you need to do is to do some self-analysis.  Ask yourself, ‘Are you ready to marry’? ‘Do you want to wait until you meet the right person or you do want to marry right now?’  Once that is clear in your mind, then you can move forward.


Next, you need to talk to the person that is putting pressure on you.  Let them know that they’re making you unhappy by putting pressure on you to get married.  Ask them if they want you to marry somebody and be unhappy.  Is that what they want for you?  If you feel that you can’t talk to the person or you’re uncomfortable about that, look for someone else you know who can talk to that person.  Let it be someone who the other person who is putting pressure on you will listen to.


For example, if it’s your mother that is putting pressure on you, can you talk to her sister, if she listens to her sister or perhaps an older brother or an older cousin if she listens to those people.  Ask them to talk to her and tell them to tell her that she needs to stop putting you under pressure.  She should stop asking you when you’re going to get married and things like that.


If all this talking isn’t helping, then you may need to put some distance between yourself and the person or the people that are putting pressure on you.  This might mean you need to spend more time out of the house or it might mean moving out of the house completely – even if you’re a single woman in Nigeria.  I know that it is still unusual, it is still difficult but that might be what you have to do if you want to save your sanity and still be happy.


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