My name is Lape Soetan.  I am a relationship coach and I help single men and women over the age of 30 navigate the world of dating and relationships.

Lape Soetan the love coach

If you’ve been in relationships that have caused you more pain than pleasure, if you’ve been single for so long you’ve lost hope of being in a relationship, if you want a loving relationship but don’t know how, I can help.

I was a single woman in my 30s for years.  Friends often asked how I stayed happy as a single woman over 30 in Nigeria.  The Nigerian society can be tough on the older single woman but somehow, I managed to be happy.

If you want to know how to be happy while you’re single and also effortlessly attract the type of people you want into your life, I can help.  There’s a ton of free information on my site as well as my coaching packages, podcast, books and more which can help YOU get the relationship you want.

I have been in your shoes.  I know what it is to despair of finding love.  I can help you attract the ideal relationship for you.  Get details on my 1 hour one-on-one coaching sessions by clicking here and we will start on the path to helping YOU get the relationship you want.

Professional Bio

Lape Soetan is a UK-certified relationship coach and Nigeria’s foremost female life coach.  She has a Bachelor’s degree from the University of Ibadan and an MBA from the University of Leicester, UK.  Lape worked in marketing communications for over 10 years and was involved in creating some of Nigeria’s most memorable advertising for multinational brands like Coca-Cola, Fanta, Total and more.

Being a female life coach in Lagos, Nigeria is unusual.  However, Ms Soetan has carved out a niche for herself and is a leading life and relationship coach in the country.  She has been featured on several TV shows such as Wake Up Nigeria, You Got Issues, Love Lounge, The Heart of the Matter and others.  She has also been featured in newspapers and magazines like Lost in Lagos, TW magazine and more.  Lape is the author of several books and has also had articles published in ThisDay, The Guardian, The Punch and True Love West Africa magazine.  To buy any of her books, click here.  Listen to her love & relationship podcast by clicking here.  Lape also runs The Magnetic Woman (TMW), an online community for single women.

Although Ms Soetan is a relationship coach based in Lagos, Nigeria, she has clients all over the world and is available for coaching and speaking arrangements worldwide.  She speaks mostly on relationships and personal development.  Watch her videos by visiting her YouTube channel  and listen to her podcast by clicking here.  To hire Lape as a coach or speaker, send an email to lape (at) lapesoetan (dot) com



I had been single for a while when I decided to have a coaching session with Lape.  During the session, she gave me some tips which I practiced.  Within a month, I was happier and found that I was attracting amazing men.  Today, I’m in a happy relationship.  I’m so glad I had that session with Lape.

Abiodun G.

A while ago, I was in an unhealthy relationship with an unavailable guy.  I saw this man as my saviour.  I knew I had to stop seeing him but I was afraid of putting a stop to it because I felt my world would end if I stopped seeing him.  One day I was going through Twitter and came across this book by Lape Soetan titled ‘How to be a Single Woman in your 30s in Lagos’ so I sent her an email that I would like to talk to her.  I never knew she would reply because I have tried mailing bloggers in this field in the past and have been ignored.

To my surprise Lape replied and then we started talking.  I narrated my story to her and unlike other people who would throw me a pity party, this amazing young woman told me practical things to do and from there she has been taking me through classes via the phone and social media.  Today, I’m happy.  I’m still a work in progress but I have put an end to the relationship and am doing better.  I’m now even looking forward to working with her to help other ladies out there going through the same thing.

Sumbo Olanrewaju

Lape Soetan isn’t just a coach, she’s a friendly and humble person who is ever ready to listen to you and isn’t judgmental.  I felt elated after our session.

-Aderinsola Majekodunmi

My coaching sessions with Lape have been useful.  They opened my eyes to things that I didn’t even know were important.

-Isi I.


Happiness Handbook for the Single Lady

This book is so on point.  It spoke to me right away.  Keep up the good work!

-Renee Olivia

7 Steps to Meeting the One

How to be a single woman in your 30s in Lagos.

Short, precise and very smart.  Really worth my time and money.

–Seyi Ogunjobi OluOla

It’s a good write-up.  Being single is not a curse though the Nigerian society tends to discriminate directly or indirectly making it seem like being married is the ultimate.  Well done.

–Justina Emanuel

The honesty of the book makes it applicable to both men and women, great work!

–Eniola Somorin

Refreshing and witty.  Well done.

–Amaka Onyeabo

Definitely a must read for every single girl in her late 20s or 30s in Lagos, Nigeria, UK, USA, everywhere.  I like how Lape opens up and lets us see her in this book.  It comes from her experiences and it clicks.  The only thing I wish is that it wasn’t so bloody short.  I am married but yet I wanted to read more.  I wanted the book to go on.

–Yetunde Ajayi

Nice, short, simple and straight to the point.  Loved the flowing style of your book. Well done.

 -Tolu Haastrup

Download a free copy of Happiness Handbook for the Single Lady here.  To buy my other books, click here.


Photograph by Dipo Soetan