How to get over your fear of heartbreak

how to get over your fear of heartbreak

Some topics come up again and again with my clients and how to get over the fear of having your heart broken is one of them.  In my video today, I’ll give 3 tips that can help you overcome your fear of heartbreak.  Of all the three tips I give in this video, tip number 3 is the most important so make special note of it.

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Today, I’m going to be talking about something that a lot of women have asked me for help with and it’s really strange that so many people are going through a particular thing but you won’t know about it unless you ask and in fact, some of these things that people are going through won’t even occur to you, well, this particular topic didn’t occur to me.  In that I didn’t think that so many people were going through it until I got that information.  And so, because I know that so many women who are my clients (my clients tend to be women who are single and over 30) are going through this particular issue, I knew I had to treat the topic with a video.


Today’s topic, how to get over the fear of heartbreak, is a really big issue for many women.  They’re so scared of getting their heart broken that they don’t go into relationships.  They second-guess themselves all the time and they worry that their heart will be broken and it will be the same thing all over again.  At the same time, they DO want to get into relationships.  They DO want to get married and they want to be happy.  They know that this fear of getting their heart broken is stopping them from getting what it is that they want so they want to know how to overcome it.  And that’s where I come in.


The first thing I want to say is that to help you get over your fear of being heartbroken, you need to remember that it happens to everybody.  There’s nobody that hasn’t had their heart broken before, whether they’re beautiful or ugly or incredibly rich.  Everyone has had their heart broken.  It’s not just you.  It’s not because you’re fat or you’re skinny or you’re flat-chested or you’re so tall that you keep getting your heart broken.  It’s not about that.  It happens to every single person.  You need to take comfort in that.


Now, if you want to get over your fear of getting your heart broken, another thing you need to do is to ask yourself “What’s the worst that could happen?”  If you get your heart broken again, what is the worst that could happen?  Fine, you know that it means that you will be in great pain.  Heartbreak is this horrible pain that sometimes feels physical.  It feels very real.  It feels like your heart is tearing apart.  Sometimes, it feels as if there’s something wrapped around your heart and it’s just crushing it.  Sometimes the pain feels very real.  Is that the worst that could happen?  Imagine what it is.


When you imagine what the worst is, you know that you can get over that thing.  Start putting things in place to get over it.  For some women, when it comes to heartbreak, mixed with the emotional and physical pain is fear about their financial situation.  They’ve relied on this partner for their finances and then when the break-up comes, they’re thinking “Oh my God!  How am I going to cope financially?”  So imagine the worst that could happen.  If it’s that you would be in financial trouble, start working towards keeping yourself financially happy, financially stable.


If the worst that could happen is that you would be in emotional pain, start thinking about how you can deal with that and realise that other people have gone through it and they’ve come out on top.  They’ve come out better despite the pain that they’ve gone through.  So the second tip is to ask yourself “What’s the worst thing that could happen?”


My third tip for how to get over your fear of having your heart broken, and I think this is actually the best tip, is to focus on positive possibilities.  Think about the future.  Think about how beautiful your life will be when you’re in the right relationship, when you’re happy with the person that you’re with.  Think about the possibilities that can come to you.  Think about how happy you can be when you’re getting married if marriage is what you want.  Think about how happy you’ll be if you have children with a partner that you love.  Think about all these amazing possibilities.  Think about how you could go on holiday with your partner.  How you could work with your partner and build an empire, a big business.  Think about all the lovely things that could happen simply because you’re in the right relationship.


That kind of imagination, the positive things that could happen to you as a result of being in the right relationship can motivate you.  It can give you the strength to know that heartbreak is not permanent and that you CAN get over it.  So don’t focus on the physical pain or the emotional pain.  Don’t focus on the bad things that have happened because of heartbreak.  Don’t focus on the things that have happened in the past.  Don’t focus on how many times your heart has been broken before.  Focus on the future.  Focus on what could be.  That is what will help you get over your fear of heartbreak.


Now, if you’re going through heartbreak and you want someone to help you get over that, you want someone to help you heal your heart, you want someone that will help you learn to love again, if you want to learn how to turn your heartbreak into happiness, then I’m the person for you.


I’m a love coach and I can help you turn heartbreak into happiness and right now, I can do that with you via Whatsapp coaching.  Yes, it’s true!  I now offer Whatsapp coaching.  So if you want 1-on-1 attention from me, via Whatsapp or you want 1-on-1 coaching from me via Whatsapp then you need to try my Whatsapp coaching.


For more details about my Whatsapp coaching, click here.  There, you’ll see all the details about my Whatsapp coaching – how much it costs, what it involves and what you can gain out of it.  I hope you’ll check it out and I hope you enjoyed this video.  Please share it with your friends and subscribe to my YouTube channel by clicking here.


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