How to get back into dating

How to get back into dating

If you’re newly single after being in a relationship for a long time or if you just haven’t been out on a date in years, it can feel scary getting back into dating.  If you feel that way then today is your day because in this video, I’m going to be talking about how to get back into dating.


Now, as you may know or not know, I’m a relationship coach for single women over the age of 30 so the tips in this video are going to be targeted at single women over the age of 30.  Now, let’s get into the video.

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In my work as a relationship coach for single women over the age of 30, I sometimes hear from women who say that they haven’t been on a date in 3. 5, 7 or more years.  They’re worried and they want to get back into dating but they don’t know how.  They have all sorts of questions.  They even say, “Do people still go out on dates anymore?”  They feel like they’re out of the loop.  They don’t know what to do.  That is why I am here so stop worrying.


First of all, “Yes, people still go out on dates.”  They may not call them dates but they still go out on dates.  If two people go out together with the intention of getting to know each other better with a view to possibly having a relationship in future then they are on a date.


If you haven’t been on a date in years and you want to start dating again, the first thing to do is to admit it to yourself.  Admit that you want to start dating again.  Once you admit that to yourself and you promise yourself that you’ll put in the effort necessary, you’ll see that opportunities to date and great people to date will start coming your way.


Secondly, decide on the kind of person that you want to date.  This is very, VERY important because if you don’t decide on the kind of person that you want to date then you’ll find that you’re dating all sorts of people who are not right for you.


One thing that can help you here is to think back on your past relationships or on your exes and remember what you did and did not like about those relationships or your exes.  For example, do you find that you don’t actually like life-of-the-party guys after all?  Did you hate it when your ex always yelled because that was the only way he knew how to express himself?  Do you find that you liked it when you held hands in public with the person you were dating?


Note all those things down as well as the characteristics of your exes that you liked.  Once you write down your list, re-arrange the list so that the things that are most important to you are at the top.  The 3 characteristics or the 3 traits that are most important to you in a partner are the things that you should put at the top of the list.  Those are the characteristics or the traits that you should look out for when dating somebody.  Those are the things that you should tell people that you’re looking for when they ask you what you’re looking out for in a partner.


Finally, don’t give up!  Dating can come with a lot of highs and lows, especially when you’re older.  When you’re a single woman over the age of 30, dating can seem to be NOT as much fun as when you were younger.  However, that feeling can be changed if you change your mindset.


If you see dating as an opportunity to meet new people and have fun, you’re more likely to enjoy yourself than if you see dating as a disappointment waiting to happen or as something you have to do because you want to get married.  The more you see dating as a break from your normal routine or as a way for you to have fun, the more you’ll enjoy yourself.


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