No matter what we may say in public, secretly, everyone wants to be liked. When we’re liked, we feel better about ourselves and about the world in general. Plus, it makes life a little easier and that’s because when people like us, they’re more likely to help us. So today, I’m going to be sharing 3 easy tips you can try in order to get people to like you.
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Most people want to be liked without doing anything, without changing any aspect of their behaviour, without lifting a finger and that’s just not likely to happen. The only time that people are liked when they are actually nasty creatures is if other people want something from you. Perhaps they want money from you, or they want sex or a job or something. And even then, those people don’t genuinely like you for you. They just like you for what they can get out of you. They know which side of their bread is buttered, so to speak.
But if you genuinely want people to like you for you, you have to make a bit of an effort. It needn’t take a huge amount of work but it will take some effort. Having said that, the tips I’m going to share with you today are super-easy and super-simple to try out.
So let’s begin! My 1st tip on how to get people to like you is to pay attention to them. Everybody likes attention, no matter what they say. And even the people who balk at talking about themselves have a special topic that they’re interested in, that they like to talk about. This could be their job, it could be a social cause they’re passionate about, it could be their pet, it could be anything. Everybody has something associated to them that they like talking about.
Your job right now is to find out what that thing is and to ask them about it. Pay attention to them based on that topic that they want to talk about. If you want to make them like you even more, make sure you remember that topic and the next time you see them, perhaps in a week’s time or a year’s time, bring up that topic and ask them about it. It makes people feel important because it makes them think that they are on your mind and so they like you even more.
My 2nd tip on how to get people to like you is to get rid of RBF. What is RBF, you ask. RBF means Resting Bitch Face. And it refers to the look some people have on their face when they’re not thinking about anything or they’re not doing anything or when they’re resting, so to speak. When some people are in that position, they have this nasty or bored or angry look on their face even though that’s not what they’re actually feeling. They might be thinking absolutely nothing at all but they have this nasty look on their face. That look is what is called Resting Bitch Face.
One thing many people don’t know is that that look, that resting bitch face is actually self-imposed. You may not have realised it but you created that look on your face over a period of years, perhaps in an effort to protect yourself in some way – to look tough, to cover shyness or for some other reason. The good thing is that since you basically taught yourself to have RBF, you can actually teach yourself to NOT have it.
First, determine if you have RBF. You can easily find this out by looking at pictures that were taken of you when you were unawares or when you were relaxing. What was the look on your face then? Did it look like you were angry or you were sad or you were bored even though you were not feeling that way at all? If you had that kind of look on your face and you were actually relaxed at that point in time, you probably have RBF.
Another clue is if people keep asking you if you’re bored or if you’re sad or if you’re angry and in actual fact, you’re not feeling any of those things; you’re actually just relaxed or you’re not even thinking of anything. That is another sign that you have RBF.
To get rid of RBF, whenever you’re relaxed or resting, take a conscious decision to put a slight smile on your face. This does not have to be a huge, cheesy grin; just a slight smile will do the trick. You can get this slight smile on your face by thinking of something that makes you laugh or thinking of something that makes you happy or if you can’t even think of anything like that at that point in time, just put a slight smile on your face and that small act will take the look on your face from RBF to a positive one.
At first, you may feel funny just putting a smile on your face when nothing funny is happening but eventually and over time, you’ll get used to it. You would have gotten rid of RBF and you’ll be amazed at how you seem to be attracting even more people and how you’re attracting kinder people into your life, people who actually want to help you. You’ll also notice how it seems like more people like you.
My 3rd tip on how to get people to like you is to not be over-reliant on others. Yes, it’s good to ask for help but if all you do is ask for help, people are going to get tired of you. You’ll drive people away that way. However, if people can see that you’re trying to do things for yourself, you’re trying to help yourself and make something of yourself, they are more likely to step in and make life easier for you. Putting in the effort day-by-day to make your dreams come true is a great way to get people to like you.
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