How to get him to define the relationship

how to get him to define the relationship

Let’s say you met this guy.  You guys like each other and have started dating.  You’ve been seeing each other for a while now but there’s something bugging you.  At the back of your mind, you’re wondering, “What are you guys doing?  Are you guys official now?  Are the two of you exclusive?  Are you boyfriend and girlfriend?  What exactly are you?”  I’m going to help you answer those questions today because today, I’m going to be talking about how to get him to define the relationship.

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If you have been seeing a guy regularly but aren’t sure if you guys are official or not, today I’m going to help you.  I’m going to give you tips on how to get him to define the relationship.  First of all, I feel like I have to say that it’s not every single time when you’re dating a guy that you have to get him to define the relationship.


Sometimes, these things just happen.  For example, you and him might go out and meet a friend or a relative of his and he introduces you as his girlfriend.  If he does that, he introduces you as his girlfriend in public, there isn’t much of a need to later ask him to define the relationship or to ask him if you guys are boyfriend and girlfriend.  He has already validated the relationship by describing you as his girlfriend in public.


However, if you guys have been dating for a while and he hasn’t referred to you as his girlfriend, it might be up to you to get him to define the relationship.  How do you do that?  Simple.  By being direct.  When you guys are alone and are happy together, obviously not when you guys have just had a fight or he has just had a disagreement with somebody else, but when you guys are happy in each other’s company, ask him what you guys are doing together.


Ask him something like, “What would you say I am to you?” or even more direct, ask him, “Are we boyfriend and girlfriend?”  The more direct your question, the better for you.  If you ask a direct question like, “Are we boyfriend and girlfriend?”, which by the way can be answered with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’, if he gives a convoluted answer or he avoids answering the question, you essentially have your answer.  He is not interested in being in a relationship with you.  I’m sorry I have to be so blunt but I don’t want you to find yourself in a situationship instead of a relationship.


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