How to build your self-esteem

how to build your self esteem

Today, I’m going to be talking about how to build your self-esteem as a single woman over 30.  The reason that many women stay in bad relationships or why they keep dating guys who treat them badly over and over and over again is a very simple thing and the reason is because they have low self-esteem.  This is such a big problem for women today that it’s the reason behind this video which includes 2 easy ways you can build your self-esteem.

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I know that many women don’t realise that they have this issue.  They think that they’re self-esteem is okay but deep down, if they think about it, they know that this is probably why they act a certain way when it comes to men, why they keep choosing the wrong men and why they keep staying in relationships that are obviously bad.


If you have low self-esteem, you’ll constantly think that you’re wrong when you guys have arguments, you’ll always be the one begging in the relationship because you think that no-one else will have you.  It’s a lose-lose situation for both you and the other person actually so we need to turn that around and the way to turn that around is by building your self-esteem.


To build your self-esteem, I have 2 tips for you.  To begin with, what you need to know is that even though you’re not a perfect person, you’re worthy of love.  Every single person is worthy of love.  What you need to do is, every single morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep, say to yourself “I am worthy of love.  I am worthy of love.  I am worthy of love.”   Say it to yourself every morning and every evening.  Do it for 30 days straight and you will see a change.  I promise you that.  You are worthy of love.  Remember it and say it to yourself every morning and every evening.


My 2nd tip for you is that you should think of things that you’re good at or things that you like about yourself and write them down.  Put at least 10 things on that list.  Now I know some people will say “I don’t like anything about myself and I’m not good at anything” but that is simply not true.  I want you to keep thinking and don’t give up on this until you’ve come up with at least 10 things.  If you can come up with more than 10 things, that would be great!


What you put on your list could even be the most basic of things.  If you’re good at sales in your office, put that on your list, if you have a nice smile, put it on your list, if you can cook and you like your cooking, put it on your list.  If you think your eyes are wonderful or you think you walk well (yes, I said ‘walk’ w-a-l-k), put that on your list because that is something good about yourself.


Once you have at least 10 things but go for 20 or more, read that list to yourself every morning and every evening without fail.  Continue reading it until you know it by heart.  Let these things be ingrained into your mind and into your brain so that you’ll know that you’re a worthy person, you’re worthy of love and that you deserve someone special as well.


You’re a special person.  You deserve good love from a special person as well.  I want you to know that you should never give up.  Don’t give up until you find the right person for you, the person who recognises how special you are.


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I wish you love and strength and I’ll see you again next week.  Bye!